I will not be accepting in-person sessions until there is a COVID-19 vaccine.
Session with Me by phone or on cam!
What is a virtual session experience with Sophia?
It’s hot! Keep in mind, I use my voice as a means of domination during every in-person session. Whether in-person or on the phone, hearing your Mistress’s voice is a powerful means to dominate you. I’ve been perfecting my verbal domination since 2006 when I began my BDSM journey by doing phone sex on NiteFlirt.com. I used my voice to dominate dozens of submissives before I ever laid my hands on one.
Depending on our virtual session, I may instruct you to sit, lay down or kneel while closing your eyes or I may instruct you to focus on an image of me. If we’re on cam together, your eyes will always be on me.
Virtual sessions for fetishists
For fetishists, we can discuss our shared fascinations or I can describe in mouth-watering detail my body or clothing. I love to show off my feet and legs whether bare or nylon-covered. With a little notice, requests for boots, heels, leather, latex, spandex, or lingerie may be entertained as my session attire.
Virtual sessions for submissives
For submissives, we may speak back and forth, imagining what we would do in person. Our scene could alternately become very physical for you, following my commands in realtime.
Phone and cam sessions work well for scenes that include toys. Things like dildos, plugs, vibrators, nipple clamps, gags, cock-rings, chastity devices, and masturbation sleeves are some examples of tools I can guide you to use upon yourself when I give the command.
Humiliation play is perfect for virtual sessions! In fact, I think it’s far more embarrassing to be instructed to do humiliating acts in your own home than it is to do them in the privacy of my dungeon. I once did an exciting panty smelling scene on cam that we scheduled a few days after I mailed my victim a pair of my well-worn, fragrant panties. I instructed him to open the package on cam and got to witness his first deep breath with my panties on his face.
For those who enjoy wearing fetish attire and crossdressers, phone and cam sessions are a natural fit. I love hearing about and seeing your clothes!
Virtual chastity sessions and keyholding
I adore controlling other peoples orgasms. Being in chastity means that you hand over control of your sexual pleasure. While it’s possible to do “mental chastity,” the most typical method involves a physical locking “cock cage” or chastity device.
If you do not own a chastity device, you may do a phone or cam call for advice on purchasing a chastity device. Sizing is extremely important and the shopping options online can feel overwhelming. I am happy to help you assess your needs and locate a suitable device.
If you do own a chastity device that fits, you may do a phone or cam call with me to engage in chastity play with me as the keyholder. For sessions of an hour or less, I can stay one phone/cam with you the entire time. If you are looking to be locked in chastity for longer than an hour, our phone or cam session marks the beginning of your locked time. This is also when I will give you instructions on what to do with they key to your device. Depending on how long your chastity adventure will be, we may schedule particular milestones for you to check in with me at. Finally, you contact me to request release from your physical confinement and release of your built up sexual energy.
I also have a detailed, step-by-step process for chastity sessions and keyholding on Niteflirt. You can read it here.
The best way to virtually session with me depends on your interests and needs.
To help you decide, below are my suggestions for how to move forward, depending on your situation.
Sharing personal information is my primary concern
I recommend that you schedule a phone session with me via email.
This way you only share your phone number* and email address with me. Typically you pay by credit card via my website but you may request that instead, I email you a payment request via paypal.com. PayPal is the secure credit card processor; you do not need an account with the site.
*I never share your phone number or email address. I will never call you outside of our designated appointment time.
Cost is my primary concern
You can get the least expensive rate per-minute by booking directly through me
Book via email, lovelyladysophia@gmail.com, or submit a form on my site.
Both phone and cam calls are $2.75 less per minute than on NiteFlirt. My prices on NiteFlirt are higher because NF takes a 30% cut.
Apps and accounts frustrate me. I want the most streamlined process.
Follow these 3 easy steps.
1. Fill out the contact form on my website.
2. Select phone or cam and the duration of our session here and you can pay immediately and securely by credit card or debit.
3. You will be contacted via email to schedule a time and date that works for both you and me.
I’m so excited, I can’t wait. I want to talk with you right now!
Click here to visit my NiteFlirt listings. If any of the phone lines say “Call Now,” you can talk to me right now!
I feel nervous and need to ask some questions before I’m comfortable enough to call/cam.
No problem! It’s common to feel nervous when contacting a Mistress. My time is in demand and is not free. My administrative assistant, Cara, can answer logistical questions via email, LovelyLadySophia@gmail.com, but to chat/text/message with me directly you have to pay.
YES! Please chat with me in these ways:
OnlyFans: as a member (pay for 1 month or more), you have access to a direct messaging feature where I will answer you for free (once you subscribe for 1 month or more).
NiteFlirt: if you have a NiteFlirt account, you can use their “chat” feature to text back and forth with me. You are automatically charged 69 cents per “volley.” A volley is defined as one “to” and one “from” exchange between us.
SextPanther: I am not currently active on this paid texting site but will be in the near future.
NO! Never do any of these things:
DO NOT send DMs (direct messages) on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook to try to talk with me for free.
NEVER ask about in-person sessions on OnlyFans, NiteFlirt, Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook.* Instead, email me directly about this at lovelyladysophia@gmail.com.
DO NOT mention off-platform monetary transactions.Platforms like Niteflirt and OnlyFans are businesses. They do not want to facilitate interactions that make money for anyone but themselves. Using words like Paypal, Cashapp, Venmo, or even phrases like “pay you” can lead to both our accounts being flagged, suspended, or deleted. Instead, email me directly at Lovelyladysophia@gmail.com if you have questions about payments.
*Due to the 2018 FOSTA-SESTA law, these third-party websites all strictly enforce the rule of “no communicating about paid in-person meetings.” If you send me a message asking “when can I see you for a session?” or “how much for an hour?” We could both lose our accounts and be banned from the site. The reason for this is that, under that law, these sites would be held legally liable in the event of sex trafficking. It doesn’t matter that I am not a victim of sex trafficking and that none of my paid in-person services are legal on both state and federal levels. These paid fan sites and free social media sites do not care enough about sex workers to spend time distinguishing between trafficked people and consensual adult workers. Sadly and ironically, FOSTA-SESTA harms those it supposedly serves.
Fun ways to connect with me besides phone and cam!
My personal favorite is my OnlyFans site.
This pandemic provided me with the perfect excuse to create an OnlyFans site. When you subscribe you will see uncensored photos of me, photos that never made it onto social media, and glimpses behind the scenes. Once you subscribe, you can message me for free and even request new content.
NiteFlirt is easy.
NiteFlirt is great for easy phone calls and texting using the site’s “chat” feature. Click and see if I’m listed as available or away.
Free social media sites:
- Twitter.com/DominaSophia
- Instagram.com/LovelyLadySophia
- Facebook.com/MistressSophia
- Pinterest.com/DominaSophia
Purchase something off my wishlist:
- Sophia’s Amazon Wishlist
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July 18, 2020
I will not be accepting in-person sessions until there is a COVID-19 vaccine.
My dungeon is open for business with expanded cleaning and safety measures. Many of the Mistresses who rent from me are accepting sessions at their discretion. Unfortunately, I will not be accepting in-person sessions anytime soon.
I have a compromised immune system. That means if I am exposed to someone with COVID-19 (including asymptomatic people who don’t feel sick themselves) I am more likely than others to become severely ill.
I intensely miss playing in person. I’m tempted to accept sessions for both the pleasure and sense of purpose I get from my work as well as the income. Anyone who has visited one of my dungeon locations can see how seriously I take cleaning and safety. Because I take equally great care with my own health and wish to session for years to come, I am only available for virtual play at this time.
I miss you.
I look forward to the day that it’s safe for me to play with you in person.
March 31st, 2020
How to connect with me while we are not able to session in person
Let me share with you where I’m at in these unusual times. I feel incredibly lucky to have a career as a professional dominatrix, doing something that I love, and that makes me feel like I’m making a positive difference in people’s lives.
For over a decade my full-time job has been seeing clients, men, women, non-binary folks, and couples, in-person for play sessions in the dungeon. It’s a fun job but it’s hard work with lots of unpaid labor behind the scenes. What makes me feel passionate about that work is that I get to connect with people and, with their desires in mind, provide uninterrupted, focused attention.
How often can we say we get the gift of genuine, purposeful attentiveness and care from another person? Imagine the power and vulnerability in that act. Now imagine that powerful situation also feeling safe and welcoming enough for you to share your deepest fantasies and desires without judgment. That’s what I get to do for a living and it’s mind-blowing.
Creating spaces for those powerful experiences of attentiveness and vulnerability is what makes me excited to do my work seeing clients. Sadly, in light of the necessary measures to slow the spread of Covid-19, I will not be seeing clients in person until that situation changes.
The logical next step for an established, independent professional dominatrix such as myself is to move my in-person sessions online: virtual private sessions over the phone and maybe on webcam. However, something about that didn’t sit right with me. Every dominatrix is different, so I am only speaking for myself here: stepping into my Mistress personae and fetish attire for sessions feels natural to me but it is also something that takes a lot of emotional and psychological energy.
Emotional and psychological energy is in short supply for everyone these days and I am no exception. I just can’t step into “Mistress mode” for online sessions right now. However, I still want to connect with the amazing folks that I usually see in person. I’ve decided that for the time being I’ll be available online, but I will not be doing sessions. Instead, I want to talk with you. Let’s have an honest conversation and connect. I want to hear about how you’re doing and what’s going on in your mind during this uncertain time. If you’re interested in talking about kink, great! Let’s talk about that. You’ll have my same focused attention and care. You’ll be welcomed into the same powerful space I create for our sessions that allows for honesty and vulnerability for both of us.
Approach to kink/sessions:
I practice Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) and am always continuing my personal kink education through research and practice. I see my sessions as a means to escape from the pressures of daily life, a safe place to explore your erotic self, and a powerful medium for human connection. Creating a safe environment, establishing trust and facilitating honest communication are the steps I take before we begin our journey together in session.